Scientific journal The Pedagogical Process: Theory and Practice

Abstract

The article analyzes the ambivalent path of becoming the wife of alcoholic within the author’s personal-integrative concept of ambivalence. Ambivalence of the personality shows in interpersonal relationships, including marriage. Men with alcohol dependence are prone to explanation of their destructive behavior due to strained relationship in marriage. The inadequacy of these men increases in their wives self-incrimination, feeling guilty for the bad marriage that promotes the formation of co-dependence in it and high ambivalence of relations.

The author examines the way of life of the wife of alcoholic due to phenomenon of co-dependence, destructiveness of marital ambivalent relations, cycles of self-creation and self-destruction of the personality of these women as marital psychological patterns. Coordinated human ambivalence is an important sign of personal safety. It is worth learning to understand the experience of having the destructive ambivalence and being able to settle it. It has been revealed the formation of alcoholic’s wife four ambivalence stages in the process of psychological counseling. It has been explained directions of coordination, harmony of destructive ambivalence of this woman. The problem of change, transformation of ambivalence is going along with the agreement of its mutually exclusive contradictions. Due to the transformation of the high ambivalence by means of coordination, self-improvement of wives of alcoholics happen which comes from the codependence of marital relations and building a new life for itself. High ambivalence of this woman is transformed from traumatic into constructive personal feature. The recovery of the wife of alcoholic during the psychological counseling from the co-dependence of marital ambivalent relationship is accompanied by making strong efforts and optimism.

Keywords: ambivalent personality;  codependence of wife of alcoholic;  cycles of self-creation and self-destruction;  high ambivalence relationship of couple;  lifestyle;  personalization;  stages of ambivalence formation of wife of alcoholic.

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